Being an introvert or extrovert is a controversial subject that some don’t believe in, others don’t understand and many just don’t care. I believe everyone has their opinions about the subject and I’m just here to give my two cents.
Although it is commonly believed that introverts are people that don’t like to socialize, are scared of being around people and generally just avoid being part of a public setting, I don’t believe this is true.
Throughout my life I’ve been called shy, been considered antisocial and have often been misjudged. To be honest, I don’t talk much, I keep my mouth shut and listen. This isn’t because I’m scared of people, I actually love people. I love socializing and networking, I love hearing peoples stories, learning, and being part of a community.
The truth is that I respect the ability to be quiet, I believe it’s a powerful tool that not many people can handle. On the other hand I have no respect for someone with verbal diarrhea, people that can’t keep their moth closed and just say whatever comes to their mind often make themselves look stupid because they don’t put any thought into what they’re saying.
“Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to speak out and remove all doubt.” -Abraham Lincoln
It is my belief that being an introvert has nothing to do with willingness and joy to be social. To me being an introvert has to do with energy.
When I compare a day completely full of socializing versus a day spent completely on my own the difference is very significant.
The days I spend talking and socializing I am often completely exhausted by the end of the day and often need a break at some point during the day to make it through. While I love these days and the people I meet, it takes everything out of me to take part in this.
In comparison, days that I spend completely alone are the days I get the most done. I can spend days alone, work for 12 hours and be fired up to pump out another 8 if I have enough to do.
I am my own motivator, I get myself excited about things and rely on myself to be energized enough to have a fulfilling day.
Being an introvert isn’t about liking people, if you don’t like people it’s most likely because you don’t have experience dealing with people; this causes you to not know what to do when you are put in front of someone.
An introvert is someone who gets energy being alone, an extrovert is someone who gets energy from being surrounded by people.
I love being around people and am blessed that I get to deal with people on a daily basis and create meaningful relationships, it just takes more energy to do so than it would for others.