What habits do you wish you had or didn’t have?
Habits can be some of the hardest things to achieve and can be the hardest things to get rid of. Often we get stuck in a rut doing the same bad habits over and over again or we try over and over again to get into the flow of doing something but give up before it becomes a habit.
So what is it truly that creates habits and makes things stick? How do you remove bad habits and get good habits?
There is that there is no simple way other than hard work. There will always be the people on the internet claiming that there is an easy way to get good habits and remove bad habits, there is always someone claiming that there is a magic silver bullet to solve your problems.
The reality is that nothing good in life is easy.
The reason that so many people claim to have the silver bullet to solve all your problems is because that’s what we want to hear. We want there to be a pill that removes all our fat and let us eat what we want, we want to get rich quick without doing any hard work and we certainly don’t want to have to work our way to the top.
We’re always looking for the easy way out, but the sooner you realize that the easy way out will hurt you more than it will help you, the better off you will be.
If you were to win the lottery, chances are that you’d waste most, if not all, the money and end up just as broke as you are now but with less time in your life to get your shit together and probably a lot less friends. If you found the magic pill to lose all your fat you’d probably consume twice, or more, as much junk food and die from eating so unhealthily. If you got the top position in the company without working for it, you’d most likely do a terrible job and burn the company to the ground along with your credibility.
Nothing good is easy and nothing easy is good.
So how do you get into the habit of something? Pure effort. It has been said that it takes 30 days to acquire a habit. It takes 30 days of forcing yourself to start something and then complete it, 30 days of reminding yourself, pushing yourself and keeping yourself accountable, before it even becomes a habit.
Once it becomes a habit it still isn’t done. You’ll still need to remind yourself and keep on top of it. As I write this, I stopped writing blogs for a few days while visiting family after writing every day for a few weeks and it was hard to get back into it. Habits disappear if you don’t keep up with them.
As time goes on habits become easier, you can think about them less and start doing them more naturally. But it always starts with your own effort, nothing will happen if you don’t work for it.
The same goes for removing habits, it’s hard and there is no ‘get out quick’ from your habits.
Stop looking for your silver bullet and put some effort in your life. You can spend your entire life waiting for someone to come along and solve your problems or you can start taking action now and know that by your own effort you can create the life that you want.